If you have a story that you want included in the book please email it to: welcomeout1@gmail.com

Please when you send in your story let me know if you want your name used. I appreciate everyone's help with this project and will list all of those who helped make this book possible.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

what to include in your story...

This is just an idea of what I am looking for in the stories. Please try to explain as best you can :

When you knew you were gay...

What made you realized you needed to come out......

How old were you when you came out......

How did you come out to your family and friends....

How has your life changed.....

And please try to describe the emotions you felt is as much detail as you can. People tend to think sometimes that they are the only ones who are feeling those feelings and need to hear that there are other people out there who share those feelings, and they are not strange or wrong feelings. It can help someone not feel so alone to hear about other people experiencing similar feelings. There are a lot of us out there.

I would prefer the stories be anywhere from a few paragraphs to a couple of pages. Since I need stories with as much detail as possible I am not sure all can be explain in only a paragraph. I don't want to rewrite your story, I want it to be your story not my story about you. Please write your story in your own voice so it sounds like you.

Sunday, November 7, 2010

WET first ever Conference

Hello everyone,

If you did not already know I write a blog for a Lesbian social group called WET (Women in Engaging Talk) in Hampton Roads here in Virginia. We meet every 3 weeks and try to answer questions or discuss topics people have sent us.

The first ever WET Conference is coming up on November 14th. We will be discussing “Why we are gay?”. We are going to be having 3 speakers answering questions and trying to shed some light on this subject. If you are gay, have friends who are gay, or have a family member who is gay this would be an awesome chance to learn more about why people are gay.

The first speaker Taje Mitchell will discuss “Was I born gay?” Taje was raised in Richmond, VA. Growing up, he always knew he was gay but didn't act on those feelings until he was in high school.
There, he was introduced to his schools GSA and that is where his advocacy began. This is his second year as Vice President of External Affairs of his schools gay organization ODU Out.

Our second speaker Latania Brock will talk about “Could my childhood have made me gay?” Latania was born in Brooklyn New York and raised in Waterbury Ct. In 1992; Latania became a resident of VA. She attended Thomas Nelson Community College where she earned her Associates is Human Services and Public Administration. She later attended Norfolk State University earning her Master of Social Work. Latania has counseled family, youth and adolescents on Behavior Modification, Emotional Disturbance and Mood Disorder. She is currently employed as a Site Supervisor with The New YCAPP.

Discussing “Is Being Gay or Straight a Choice?” will be Diane Griffin. Diane is the Founder/Executive Director of the Mercedes Parra Foundation for Women and Children, as well as the Managing Director of the Institute for Humanist Studies. Ms. Griffin is a strong global advocate for human rights, especially in the areas of gender and sexuality, with a special focus on religious based discrimination. She has spoken at numerous colleges and universities, including the University of Notre Dame and the Georgia Institute of Technology.

I hope to see you all at this wonderful conference. We can learn more about ourselves and others together.

You can RSVP in advance, Regular admission is $10.00 or $20.00 for VIP admission and save 20% off admission by paying online at:


Monday, October 4, 2010

thanks Jen Foster for this wonderful song

Recently there have been way to many gay young people taking their lives after being bullied for being themselves. Everyone deserves the chance to live their lives with out fear. Everyone deserves the chance to be happy.

A few months ago I was told about this song. Jen Foster is a wonderful song writer and has been a great supporter of Welcome Out. After hearing about these suicides that did not have to happen she decided to release this song. It costs nothing to listen and to share it, the message is priceless. I urge everyone to listen and share it. You can download it for free and share it with everyone you know.

Download "This is Me" here and feel free to listen to other wonderful Jen Foster songs:

Take care,

Saturday, September 25, 2010

It may seem hard right now

To those people who are struggling with being in the closet it will get better. It can be very draining to live in the closet. At first you think that your sexuality is nothing to tell others about, you may think it is just sex. It is not just sex. When you are in the closet you are not only hiding that you want to have sex with someone of the same sex, you are also hiding your heart. When I was in the closet I thought it was no one's business who I was with. Later I realized it is not just about sex. I was hiding the people I was dating and it was very hard to find places to go where I would not be seen.

Everyone in this world deserves to take someone out and enjoy their company without fear. When you are not out you are constantly looking over your shoulder and sometimes so focused on your fear of being found out that you can't really connect with the other person. When you are out on a date you want your focus to be the person you are with and not the people around you.

It is very possible to be in love when you are in the closet, but it can wear on you. When you are in love you want to talk to your friends and family about it. You want to spread your happiness. You want to hug and kiss your loved one and feel good about it. When you are in the closet you feel very happy while with the person you are dating. Then the date ends and you close your door and have to pretend all of that happiness didn't happen. The truth is the happiness did happen and it is a good thing.It is something to celebrate and enjoy.

Good luck in your journey. I pray that you can find true happiness and be happy for yourself. You are very lucky to find love.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Thought I would share my own coming out journey with you all

I would have to say my actual coming out story started when I was around 13, at least that is when I started to realize I had different feelings than the other girls in my class. All of the other girls were talking about their boyfriends and getting all excited about the school dances. I had no interest in having a boyfriend, I thought boys were great for playing football with but I had no interest in anything more. But like every other 13 year old girl I wanted to fit in. My friends all had boyfriends and I felt weird not having one. I let the comments from my friends about my lack of a dating life roll off my shoulders until high school. I began to date a very nice guy who was in my social studies class. I don’t even know if I would call it dating since all we did was walk around the school holding hands. Finally I felt like I could fit in. I didn’t date any guy for very long since after about a month they would want to do more than just hold hands and anything more seemed gross to me.

Finally during my Junior year in high school something happened that changed my life. I met Aisha. We were working on the school play together, she was one of the actors and I was the costume designer. She was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen and every time she stepped in the room my stomach filled with butterflies. I didn’t know why I was feeling this way for her I had never felt that way about anyone before. I was terrified to share these feeling with anyone else. I was sure that my friends would think I was weird and stop speaking to me since they had made jokes about gay people many times before. Aisha and I became fairly good friends and we would hang out after the plays and eat lunch together during school.

During the first dress rehearsal for the play our friendship changed suddenly. I was in the costume room making sure the costumes fit the actors and it was Aisha’s turn to try on her costume. We were in the room alone together and when I handed her the costume our hands touched and it was as if electricity was ignited between us. I looked at her and she at me and then she smiled and then she kissed me and I thought I was going to burst. Soon after our encounter in the costume room we would meet secretly to be together. Neither of us had told our families about our relationship but we figured it was about us and our families didn’t need to know everything. I loved everything about her. I loved the feel of her milk chocolate skin, the smell of her hair, the sound of her voice, the feel of her lips against mine. I loved every minute I was with her. Unfortunately she was one grade ahead of me. Only a few months after falling in love with her she had to move away to go to college. I was heart broken, I had never felt so close to another person. After school ended I did not hear from her, she would not return my phone calls. She was gone and I felt so lost.

After the heartbreak of that relationship I told myself I didn’t want to be gay. I would try to date guys like all of the other girls. I thought life would be easier if I was normal. I decided to turn my attention to other things, I got very involved with the drama program and tried to stay as busy as I could then I wouldn’t have to think about it. After graduating high school I decided to be trained as a nanny. That worked out great, I loved kids. Once I became a nanny I threw myself into my job. I moved to Ohio for a nanny job. I worked pretty much everyday. I cooked all of the meals, cleaned their 3 story house, did all of the laundry, and cared for their 4 kids. I loved my job. I loved the kids as if they were my own. But after caring for this family for 9 years and giving my own life little thought I became concerned. I was almost 30 and have not really lived my life the way I want to live it. I didn’t want to hide anymore. I had been living and a very small conservative town and knew that being gay there would be tough. After coming out to my family and friends I was relieved nobody was shocked at all and most already knew. Then I had to come out to my employers which could be a little more difficult since I was living in their house and they were a fairly Catholic family. They had some close family friends who were gay but it is different when someone is living in your house and so much a part of your kids’ lives.

I asked my bosses if they could sit at the dining room table with me without the kids. When they sat down I began to cry, I didn’t know how they would react and I was so afraid of losing not only my job also my home. The mother of the children wrapped her arm around me as I cried then I went ahead and told them through my tears “I’m gay”. They both said “what is that all?’ They told me that they had been suspecting for a while.

Not long after I came out to my employers I discovered me being gay was a much bigger deal than they let on. After 3 weeks they sat me down and let me go. The said “we feel it is time for us to let you spread your wings” they then said I had 2 weeks to pack up my things and move away. They had already hired a new nanny. I was devastated.

I was lucky to have some close friends who lived in VA Beach and they told me I could live with them as long as I need to get back on my feet. That worked out well since I could just drive there.

I lost that job almost a year ago and I am finally not angry anymore. I have my own place and a new job. Right after I moved I was very angry at my employers in Ohio. I had been a part of their family for 10 years and only 3 weeks after coming out to them they fired me. Now the anger has subsided and I am moving on with my life. I still think of the children everyday and miss them terribly. But one thing is for sure My worst day now is 20 times better than my worse day before I came out. I now have a sense of pride. I can now live my life for me and not try to be what others want me to be. I used to be ashamed to be different. I am now proud to be me.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

want to support some wonderful hard working lesbians?

Last year I was told about a great new webseries called "We Have To Stop now" its a great show about lesbians and it is done by mostly gay people. Two of the stars actually inspired me to come out. I was also very fortunate in November 2009 to get to be in a small part of the show. This show is smart and funny and it shows that there is more to lesbian and/or gay life in general than just sex. It shows that lesbians have the same problems as anyone else.

I have heard form many other lesbians that there is no good shows about lesbians on TV these days. That's why I encourage all of you to check out shows on the web. Please check out this site and get a subscription so you can experience this wonderful show, it costs less than many of  DVDs you buy at the video stores.

here is the link to the best lesbian webseries on the web today:


Wednesday, March 3, 2010

back in action

I had to take a bit of a hiatus from doing this project for personal reasons. I am now able ot devote more time to this project. I am still in need of stories. Feel free to post a link to this on your facebook, Myspace, twitter, or if you have a site and would like ot post a link. If you contact me and tell me that you would like ot post a link to this I would be happy to poast a link to your site on here as well.

The only way to show people that we are human and nothing to be scared of is by showing ourselves. If we stay silent change will not happen. If we dont share our stories others will not understand our lives.